The Five Fs
I want to begin to introduce y’all to the way I think about traumatic energy, come along if you want to learn…
See, I value the body of research we have on all that, but if I’m being real, my game is prevention. Every psych professional has something that gnaws at them and gets in the way of the work. My thing though, happens to be more of a double edge sword because either way, you know what you needed to know.
There is immense power in just being willing to walk away. Even if you don’t mean it, people need to work themselves into a place where they can do what they need to do. There was this guy I knew in high school, he was on the football team, which I managed. When given a task he didn’t want to do, under his breath he would go “maaaaaaannnn fuck this shiiiiittttt” then get up and go do it. He wasn’t the first place I noticed this behavior, but his words, tempo, and tone is the one that got stuck in my head helping me over the years.
I’ve seen people who just need to give up to try again. I’ve seen people who need to surrender to the idea that they could just die so they can see how simple everything actually is. I have seen people run to desperate extremes to avoid feeling their feelings until they’ve had enough and have to snap to do right. My goal is to make it so people can harness that energy that comes with the “fuck everything” moment without actually having to go there because it hurts more than it needs to if you carry on too long.
The problem with clinging to our problems is that they tend to come out at the people we love most if we stuff them down. The key to managing the building and releasing of this type of energy is always being ready for it, by always being empty of it. By getting rid of it, by avoiding it when you can. The more you exist in a high stakes world where you have to function under duress, the more important it becomes to say “FUCK THIS” about things that do not deserve your bandwidth so you can be ready for the things that come your way that are your charge.
There is a lot to negotiate in the revolution about who and what is worth your time, but if people have hurt you, it’s okay to make them prove they understand what they did, and for that I say:
